When you’ve been living with a guy for a while it’s easy to get used to the fact that you’re both around each other all the time. You can both become stuck in your ways and even though you might be waiting for him to pop the question, it might seem like he hasn’t even thought of it. So why not drop a few oh-so-subtle hints so you’re truly ready to become engaged? I’m not talking about leaving wedding ring catalogues lying around with post-it notes attached – maybe do something a little more sensible than that! Together with Angelic Diamonds, retailers of bespoke engagement rings, I’m sharing this blog post to give you a few tips on pointing your husband-to-be in the direction of a big proposal.
Keep your friends close, but your married friends closer
If you know that your fella is slightly worried or anxious about getting engaged, make sure he hangs around with your married friends and family members who have children. This will make him realise that you’re comfortable with being around more serious relationships. Married friends will help show your other half that marriage has its ups and downs, but the commitment shown through other people will help him imagine what married life would be like with you.
Become his go-to guy
Sometimes when you’re in a relationship, you both have your assigned roles but that’s when you might start taking each other for granted. Never fall into a routine, and make sure that you can be your partner’s go-to friend as well as a girlfriend. If you’re constantly being left behind for the guys, this might put a strain on your relationship, so being his buddy is a great way to enjoy each other’s company more.
Try and become the complete package; go for runs together and take an interest in his interests and hobbies. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, the logical step is putting a ring on it, after all, he can’t spend his time without you!
Show some tough love
Although many don’t like to do this, sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind. If you don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and things are flatlining, try and find his pulse again by telling him what’s wrong. Or, if you don’t want to be so dramatic, why not try changing careers, or spending more time with the girls unannounced? Although he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him realise that he needs to put the effort in so that he can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.
Honesty is the best policy
Although there are many hints and tricks you could use sometimes communication really is key to the success of a relationship. If you want to get engaged, then why not talk to him about why it’s important to you. If you can tell him why you want to marry him, then the likelihood is he’ll know how much he means to you. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know that you want to be a part of it. By giving him that gentle nudge in the right direction, you may just be engaged before you know it.
What’s our engagement story? I’d love to know how it happened for you so please leave me a comment below 🙂